The more time I spend thinking of it, the more I realize that when people talks about feelings they are also talking about leadership. The same way processes relate more to management than to the first concept. There are many things we can lead in our lives, but our lives themselves are the first thing we need to look into. Where we are now is only the natural consequence to our decisions and the decisions we make now will be the natural path in which our lives will develop.
It seems like we always have options, all of them leading to a complete different outcome. How to know where to go?
There are a couple of questions I wrote down to give myself clarity on this issue. I did so understanding that in the end, the most difficult thing is to make ourselves questions rather than to respond to them.
Here is a sample:
What makes me happy?
I sat down and thought what the most valuable moments of my life had in common. I realized there were some things that seemed to be constant. The main one being LOVE: To have the love of my family, friends and to be able to fall in love for people, places, music, projects and causes. Other was achievement and sense of impact: feel that i've made a difference and that I do what I wanted to do, I love starting things. Places: I like places where I connect with the culture, where I have a network of friends and where I can dance and eat good food. Travel: I like to be amazed by the beauty of continuing finding commonalities in a world where most of the people look only differences across cultures. Strengths: I like to work with my strengths.
What do I wish?
This questions is a difficult one as it is focused on the future and on the infinite potential that someone's life has. I still don't know if I have been able to solve it completely. But I wish among many other things to be able to find a place where I can make a difference. For this I refer to my stand: Education. I also wish I could give back to my parents what they have given to me so far. I wish I'm as good to my children as my parents have been to me. I wish I can help others to follow their wishes. I made my wishes for 1,5,10,20, and 30 years. They will definitely evolve. But it's good to know what you wish with all your heart. It just puts you in the right direction I guess.
Those are only two questions of others I gave a long thought. Among those questions were:
What are my Strenghts?
What do I like?
Where do I start?
The answer to those questions are my guiding principles now to make a decision. It is easy to make decisions that will steer our lives out of our control. I do not believe we need to plan our lives. I believe we should take life for what it is: A unique opportunity to live. I just believe each person has one life to give for something... I guess it is worth thinking what you are going to give it for.
Oh well... it's been a long time since i thought about this. To be honest, these days i haven't even had time to think, or sleep, or even take a nice bath. Sometimes i think the less i think, the better are the decisions i make... and they are more influenced by my instints and what i call destiny.
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